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Why Stupid Shit Rules the Internet

Let’s be honest: the news is a soul-sucking black hole of despair. It’s like a daily reminder that humanity is collectively riding a unicycle on a tightrope over a pit of lava, and we’re all just hoping the clown in charge doesn’t sneeze. I, for one, can only stomach about two minutes of headlines before I’m ready to yeet my phone into the sun. As long as the sky is still blue, birds are still dive-bombing freshly washed cars with military precision, and gravity hasn’t given up on us yet, I’m good.

So, what do I do instead of doomscrolling? I dive headfirst into the cesspool of distractions: reels, TikTok, and YouTube. These platforms are like the junk food of the internet—deliciously addictive but guaranteed to rot your brain. And let’s be real, they’re also a breeding ground for some of the stupidest shit humanity has ever produced.

When I’m not doomscrolling or watching people do dumb things for clicks, I’m writing. Currently, I’m editing a thriller about a forensic expert who moonlights as an assassin. (Because why not? Who doesn’t love a little murder with their science?) Writing, my friends, is escapism on steroids. Unlike movies, where you’re stuck in someone else’s plot, writing lets you play God. I create worlds, people, places, and scenarios. I can make someone fall in love, get hit by a bus, or both—because I’m the boss.

But editing? Editing is like one of those adult coloring books that are supposed to be relaxing but actually make you want to set the whole thing on fire. It’s tedious, it’s boring, and it requires a level of self-control I simply do not possess. Which is why I keep getting distracted by—you guessed it—stupid shit.

Let’s talk about reels for a second. My God, this is the armpit of society, and I say that with love. Case in point: there’s this girl—no, woman—who has a pet scorpion. Yes, you read that right. A pet scorpion. She proudly shows off this venomous little nightmare, holding up its log like it’s a goddamn trophy, and proceeds to explain how it eats, how poisonous it is, and—wait for it—warns people not to pet it.

No shit, Sherlock. Who in their right mind is out here trying to cuddle a scorpion? “Oh, look at my adorable little murder bug! Isn’t he just the cutest?” No, Karen, he’s not. He’s a living fossil with a stinger that could ruin your whole week.

Let’s take a moment to appreciate the irony here. The word “pet” comes from the Scottish Gaelic word “peata,” which means “tame animal” or “companion.” In what f*cking world does a scorpion fit that definition? Unless you’re cuddling it, stroking it, or teaching it to fetch, it’s not a pet. It’s a red flag with legs.

Fun Fact: Scorpions Glow (and They’re Everywhere)

Now, I live in a place where scorpions are not a novelty—they’re a nuisance. They’re everywhere. I take a blacklight out at night to hunt them because, fun fact, they glow under UV light. It’s like a rave, but instead of dancing, you’re trying not to get stung. And no, I don’t pet them. Once you’ve stepped on one barefoot, you’ll understand why. Spoiler alert: it’s not a pleasant experience.

So, that’s where I’m at with my book, Stupid Shit. It’s coming along nicely, fueled by my fascination with words, my disdain for scorpions, and my love of calling out the ridiculousness of the world. If you want to stay updated on my blogs, book releases, or just want to laugh at the absurdity of life, sign up for my email list.

And as always, have a nice day! Or don’t. I’m not your mom.

Unpacking the Truth Behind Stupid Shit

A sure-fire way to win an election? Easy. Just call 78 million people mentally ill. That’s the kind of genius strategy that screams, “Vote for me, I’m relatable!” Now, Jasmin Crockett is smarter than this—or at least I thought she was. So why the hell did she do it? Did she lose a bet? Was it Opposite Day? Or maybe she just wanted to see how fast she could alienate half the country. Bold move, Jasmin. Bold move.

Personally, I think it is political theater.

Let’s get one thing straight: nobody on either side of the political aisle is mentally ill for believing the stupid shit the media spoon-feeds them. Nope, they’re just regular people, happily slurping up the bullshit stew served daily by their favorite talking heads. And honestly, who can blame them? It’s easier to swallow than thinking for yourself. Thinking is hard. It burns calories. And let’s face it, most of us would rather save those calories for nachos.

Personally, I like to pay closer attention to what people actually do versus what the media tells me they did. Crazy concept, right? It’s almost like I’m trying to use my brain instead of letting it rot into a pile of mushy clickbait. But hey, that’s just me. In my book, Stupid Shit, I break down exactly how you’re being manipulated. Spoiler alert: we all are. And the people pulling the strings? Oh, they’re the ones in power who want to stay in power. Shocking, I know. It’s like discovering that water is wet or that Taco Bell isn’t authentic Mexican cuisine.

The Soros Conspiracy (Or Is It?)

Here’s a fun question to chew on: why did George Soros buy 200 media outlets right before the election? And why did the FCC fast-track the whole process like it was a Kardashian getting a VIP pass to a plastic surgeon? I don’t know much about Mr. Soros. The media paints him as the boogeyman, lurking in the shadows, twirling his mustache, and cackling like a cartoon villain. Is he? Hell if I know. Maybe he’s just a guy who really loves controlling narratives. Or maybe he’s misunderstood, like that one kid in high school who wore a trench coat and listened to death metal but secretly just wanted a hug.

Speaking of boogeymen, let’s talk about Putin and Zelensky. The media portrays Putin as the devil incarnate and Zelensky as Superman. Why? Because it’s easier to sell a story when you’ve got clear heroes and villains. Nuance doesn’t get clicks. Nobody wants to read an article titled, “It’s Complicated: Both Sides Are Kind of Awful.” That’s not sexy. That doesn’t trend on Twitter. But if you want to start a war—domestically or globally—all you have to do is attack what people believe. It’s like poking a bear with a stick, except the bear has nukes and a Twitter account.

The Foundation of Beliefs (And Why They’re Easy to Exploit)

Here’s the thing about people: we’re all walking around with these deeply ingrained beliefs that shape how we see the world. They come from religion, culture, personal experiences, and whatever our parents yelled at us about when we were kids. These beliefs are like the operating system of our brains, and once they’re installed, they’re damn near impossible to uninstall. It’s why people will fight to the death over pineapple on pizza or whether “Die Hard” is a Christmas movie (it is, by the way).

Let’s break it down:

Religious and Spiritual Beliefs

People believe in God, gods, or some cosmic force because it gives them comfort. It’s like a celestial security blanket. Heaven, hell, reincarnation—it’s all part of the package. And don’t forget the moral codes: compassion, honesty, justice. You know, the stuff we all pretend to care about until someone cuts us off in traffic.

Moral and Ethical Principles

Fairness, kindness, hard work—these are the things we tell ourselves we value. But let’s be real: most of us would sell our souls for a free iPhone or a lifetime supply of tacos.

Scientific and Rational Beliefs

Some people trust science and logic. Others think the Earth is flat and vaccines are a government plot to implant microchips. To each their own, I guess.

Cultural and Social Norms

Family values, community, traditions—these are the things that keep society from devolving into complete chaos. Well, most of the time. Unless it’s Thanksgiving, in which case all bets are off.

Personal Identity and Purpose

Everyone wants to feel like they matter. Whether it’s through religion, relationships, or posting selfies on Instagram, we’re all just trying to find meaning in this chaotic shitshow we call life.

Myths and Unproven Ideas

Superstitions, conspiracy theories, and urban legends—these are the cherry on top of the stupid shit sundae. Did you know some people still believe in Bigfoot? Or that the moon landing was faked? Or that pineapple belongs on pizza? Wild.

Philosophical Foundationalism

This is the fancy way of saying, “I believe what I believe because I believe it.” It’s like arguing with a toddler who insists the sky is green. You’re not going to win, so why bother?

Why It All Matters

Foundational beliefs are important because they give us stability and purpose. They help us navigate the world and make sense of the chaos. But they’re also incredibly easy to exploit. Politicians, corporations, and media outlets know this, and they use it to manipulate us. They poke at our beliefs, stir up our emotions, and watch as we tear each other apart. It’s like a reality TV show, except the stakes are real, and nobody wins a cash prize.

So, what’s the takeaway here? Simple: think for yourself. Question everything. And for the love of all that is holy, stop believing the stupid shit the media shovels down your throat. Or don’t. It’s your life. Just don’t come crying to me when you realize you’ve been played like a fiddle in a hillbilly hoedown.

And that, my friends, is the essence of Stupid Shit. Stay tuned for more. Or don’t. I’m not your mom.

Make sure you get on the e-mail list for when the book Stupid Shit drops.

Have a nice day!

More Stupid Shit

and media manipulation

Vance Boelter, a man clearly not invited to the “Let’s Make Good Life Choices” seminar, decided one day to spice things up by dressing as a cop, strolling up to a Minnesota lawmaker’s house, and committing straight-up cold-blooded murder. Bold move, Vance. Bold, stupid-as-hell move.

Now, as gruesome and shocking as that is, what really takes the cake here is the way Alexa—yes, Amazon’s Alexa—decided to break the news. Imagine walking into your kitchen, coffee in hand, ready to fight the soul-sucking Monday ahead, when your helpful little robot assistant pops up with:

“A murder occurred at the home of a Democratic Lawmaker. The perpetrator shot the husband and wife in cold blood.”

To be honest, the newsflash should have left out the word Democrat… Whoever writes this shit knows what they are doing and trust me, its deliberate.

Well, damn, Alexa. Way to brighten my day. That’s one hell of a headline to pair with my toast and jam. But you know what they didn’t mention? What they just conveniently left out? That Vance was… wait for it… a Democrat appointee, courtesy of Governor Tim Walz himself. Yeah, let that marinate. Tens of thousands of people see that vague little nugget of information and immediately start imagining some MAGA-hat-wearing lunatic foaming at the mouth. Because that’s what we do now: jump to conclusions faster than a squirrel on espresso.

Public Opinion: A Circus of Stupidity

This, ladies and gentlemen, is how public opinion is formed. Not with facts or nuance or even a shred of common sense. Nope. Just a headline and a whole lot of assumptions. And let’s be real here—critical thinking is about as popular these days as a Nickelback reunion tour. Nobody questions anything, nobody digs deeper. The media throws you a bone, and we all run with it like we’re championship greyhounds.

But wait! There’s more! Because, of course, there’s always more stupid shit to pile on top of the already steaming heap. Enter Alex Padilla, the guy who apparently thought it was a good idea to crash Kristi Noem’s press conference (because why not, right?). This same dude is now trying to tie these murders to Trump’s campaign. Yes, you read that right. The murders. Trump. Connected. Somehow. It’s like a bad game of Mad Libs where every blank gets filled with “Trump” because nobody knows what else to say anymore.

Why Are We Like This?

And here’s the million-dollar question: Why are tensions rising? Why is everybody so angry all the damn time? Well, buckle up, because here’s the answer—it’s stupid shit like this. The media stirs the pot with half-truths, people gobble it up without question, and before you know it, everyone’s picking sides and throwing punches. It’s human nature, sure, but it’s also human stupidity in its purest form.

So, there you have it. Murder, media, and a masterclass in how to divide a population. If this isn’t the poster child for my upcoming book, Stupid Shit, I don’t know what is. Oh, and if you’re still here, sign up for emails so you can snag the book on KDP when it drops because nothing cures the existential dread of living in a divided society like laughing at the sheer absurdity of it all.

Learn to ask questions and stop assuming shit.

-Scott

More Stupid Shit: Dia dos

Ah, lawyers and politicians—the true thespians of our time. If there’s one thing they excel at, it’s political theater. And yesterday, Senator Alex Padilla took center stage for his 15 minutes of fame, delivering a performance that would make even the most melodramatic soap opera actor blush.

Padilla’s stunt at Christy Noem’s press conference wasn’t just about making a scene—it was about standing up for the real victims of society: the criminals burning cars in the streets. You know, the ones who are apparently just misunderstood artists expressing themselves through the medium of arson.

The Burning Car Chronicles

Speaking of burning cars, let’s talk about the absolute masterpiece of media spin happening in Los Angeles right now. During the recent anti-ICE riots, where vehicles were literally on fire and chaos reigned supreme, an ABC7 news anchor decided to channel their inner optimist.

“It’s just a bunch of people having fun watching cars burn,” they said, as if this was some kind of impromptu Burning Man festival instead of, you know, a riot.

Let’s break this down. Cars are on fire. Objects are being thrown. The city looks like the set of a post-apocalyptic movie. And yet, somehow, this is described as “relatively peaceful”. Because nothing says “peaceful” like the smell of burning rubber and the distant sound of someone smashing a window.

Padilla’s Role in the Circus

Enter Alex Padilla, stage left. Fresh off his press conference stunt, he decided to use his newfound spotlight to condemn ICE and, by extension, law enforcement in general. In his statement to the press, he dropped this gem:

“If this is how they treat a senator, how do you think they are treating Hispanics?”

Now, let’s be clear: ICE isn’t exactly winning any popularity contests. But Padilla’s attempt to tie his self-inflicted humiliation to the broader issue of immigration enforcement is nothing short of political theater at its most shameless.

Here’s the thing: Padilla isn’t wrong to criticize ICE. But let’s not pretend his little outburst was some brave act of defiance. This wasn’t about standing up for the oppressed. This was about getting airtime and scoring political points. And in the process, he managed to toss everyday Americans under the bus—again.

The Bigger Picture

This whole debacle is a perfect example of how we the people are manipulated. Politicians like Padilla pull stunts like this, knowing it’ll dominate the news cycle. Meanwhile, the media downplays actual violence and destruction, framing it as “fun” or “relatively peaceful”.

It’s all part of the same game: distract, deflect, and divide. While we’re busy arguing about whether burning cars is a valid form of self-expression, the real issues—like immigration reform, public safety, and economic inequality—get swept under the rug.

Final Thoughts

So, what did we learn from all this? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Because this is politics, and politics is stupid. It’s a never-ending parade of bad actors, bad decisions, and bad takes.

In conclusion: yesterday was yet another day of stupid shit. And if the news out of LA is any indication, tomorrow will be more of the same. Stay tuned.

Oh, and don’t forget to follow me and sign up for emails—because, let’s face it, who doesn’t want more random shit clogging up their inbox? But seriously, I’m on the verge of unleashing my literary masterpiece, Stupid Shit, onto the unsuspecting world, and you’re not going to want to miss it. I’ll probably slap it on KDP (because I’m fancy like that), so all you Kindle-having, book-hoarding legends can read it, laugh your ass off, and then wonder why you willingly spent your time on this nonsense. Spoiler: it’s worth it.

-Scott

The Power of Embrace

Unveiling the Transformative Benefits of Hugging

Yes, hugs play a significant role in our emotional and physical well-being. Hugs provide comfort and support, especially during difficult times. When someone is facing challenges, a hug can help reduce their stress levels and make them feel more supported. This physical touch fosters a sense of connection and reassurance.

Hugging stimulates the production of oxytocin. This hormone not only helps to ease stress but also promotes feelings of bonding and connection between individuals. Also, hugging releases other hormones like dopamine and serotonin, enhancing mood and overall mental health.

Regular hugging can lead to various health benefits, including improved heart health. It has been shown to lower blood pressure and reduce the risk of heart disease. The act of hugging can also help mitigate the effects of high-stress hormones, which are linked to many health issues.

Hugs are a powerful way to strengthen social bonds. They can enhance feelings of closeness and intimacy in relationships, contributing to higher self-esteem and improved mental health.

Not only is hugging like the old song “I want to buy the world a Coke and live in harmony,” but think about how we lead by example. What we do in our homes has long-term effects on our progeny. They watch us as parents. Much like sponges, the nut doesn’t fall far from the tree.

Hugging plays a crucial role in children’s emotional, cognitive, and physical development.

Hugging provides children with a sense of security and comfort. This physical affection helps to foster emotional resilience, allowing children to better manage stress and anxiety. Research shows that hugs can effectively reduce tantrums and promote calm, essential for emotional regulation during early development.

Hugging stimulates the release of oxytocin, a hormone that not only enhances bonding but also supports brain development. This hormone can promote the release of growth hormones vital for cognitive development. Children who receive regular hugs may experience enhanced brain growth and improved learning capabilities.

Regular hugging can boost a child’s immune system, making them less susceptible to illness. Studies show that the physical touch of hugging reduces inflammation and promotes overall health, especially important during childhood development. This nurturing behavior contributes to a child’s physical well-being, allowing them to thrive.

Hugging is a powerful way to enhance the emotional bond between parents and children. This connection fosters trust and security, which are foundational for healthy relationships. Children who feel loved and secure are more likely to develop positive self-esteem and social skills.

We are role models for our children.

Witnessing their parents express affection through hugging teaches children about the importance of physical touch in relationships. It sets a positive example of how to show love and support, helping them understand that affection is a natural and healthy part of human interaction.

Seeing their parents hug can create children’s sense of safety and security. This physical expression of love reinforces the idea that their parents are emotionally connected and supportive of each other, which can help children feel more secure in their own relationships.

Children who witness affectionate interactions between their parents are more likely to develop strong emotional intelligence. They learn to recognize and express their own emotions, as well as understand the feelings of others. This exposure to positive emotional expressions can lead to higher self-esteem and better social skills.

When children see their parents hugging, they are likelier to engage in similar affectionate behaviors. This can lead to a nurturing atmosphere where children feel comfortable expressing love and care towards their peers and family members, fostering healthy relationships throughout their lives.

All too often we see children from families of stoic parents become stoic adults, thus making relationships rife for marriage counselors and rocky starts.

Some people might dismiss demonstrativeness as they think back and remember they hugged their spouse or child recently, but it might have been weeks or months ago that they were actually there for the hug, if at all.

If you think about the different behaviors of some cultures, you might fit into that category.

Cultural expressions of affection, including physical touch like hugging, vary significantly across different societies. Here’s a breakdown of cultures that tend to be more demonstrative versus those that are less so:

Many Latin American, Mediterranean, and Middle Eastern societies are often characterized as more demonstrative. In these cultures, physical expressions of affection, such as hugging, kissing, and holding hands, are common and socially accepted. For example, in countries like Brazil and Italy, people frequently greet each other with hugs and kisses, reflecting a warm and open approach to interpersonal relationships. These cultures value emotional expressiveness and view physical touch as vital to social interaction.

In contrast, cultures considered less demonstrative include many East Asia and Northern European societies. For instance, in countries like Japan and Finland, there is often a greater emphasis on personal space and restraint in physical expressions of affection. In these cultures, public displays of affection may be viewed as inappropriate or uncomfortable. People may hint at their feelings, relying on verbal communication or non-verbal cues rather than physical touch.

As we enter a period of life where health comes from the drug store via big pharma, one must wonder how much of the medicine prescribed today could be rendered mute with a few changes in our social mores and diet.

Are you there for the hug?

The intention behind a meaningful hug is crucial. People give hugs purposefully, whether to celebrate a joyous occasion, comfort someone in distress, or express affection. This intentionality enhances the emotional impact of the hug, making it a memorable and significant experience.

A meaningful hug typically lasts longer than a quick greeting. It involves a genuine embrace where both parties engage fully, often accompanied by a gentle squeeze or a soft pat on the back. This prolonged contact can deepen feelings of connection and intimacy.

While a meaningful handshake might suffice upon meeting someone for the first time, graduating to a hug over consecutive meetings will undoubtedly go a long way towards cementing that friendship for years to come.

Just some food for thought.

Yes, I’m an author. I’m currently juggling several exciting projects. One delves into the mystical world of magic, while another explores the dark and thrilling world of a forensic assassin, a project filled with suspense and unexpected twists. Stay tuned.

-Best

Thanks for the hug!

Why are hugs important?

Hugs are part of a more complex subject, “Love Language.”

Recognizing and understanding love languages can significantly improve relationships. It helps partners communicate their needs more effectively and fosters a deeper emotional connection. When both partners understand each other’s love languages, they can express love in ways that resonate most with one another, leading to greater satisfaction and harmony in the relationship.

Love language doesn’t stop in your home. In our increasingly social world, we tell people we barely know happy birthday. How does social media affect the fabric of the human condition?

I want to discuss five different aspects of the love language. I want to focus on the fifth one specifically.

Words of Affirmation: This language involves expressing love through verbal compliments, encouragement, and affirming words. People who resonate with this love language feel valued when they hear kind words.
Acts of Service: For some, actions speak louder than words. This love language emphasizes doing things for your partner, such as helping with chores or running errands, to show care and support.
Receiving Gifts: This language is about giving thoughtful gifts that show you are thinking of someone. It’s not about the monetary value but the sentiment behind the gift that matters.
Quality Time: This love language focuses on giving your partner undivided attention. Spending meaningful time together without distractions is crucial for those who value this form of love.

I want to expand on this form of expressing love. Without going into a lengthy explanation, let’s talk about what it means to be “without distractions.” Kindly disable the phone and store away any other electronic devices. When I say quality time, I truly mean it. You are important to me, and I truly want to hear about what’s happening in your life. How many times have you interrupted or been interrupted by something on some electronic leash? Have you done it to people? Are you guilty of putting them in some lower class of person by elevating a Facebook post or reel? It’s important to put them first, period.

Physical Touch: For many, physical affection such as hugs, kisses, and holding hands is essential. This love language emphasizes the importance of physical closeness in expressing love.

The first four are self-explanatory, and we can accomplish many of them through social media. We can also do the opposite through an unkind word. I have told many people never to drink and drive and never to drink and get on social media. While you might not kill someone on social media, your words can cut like knives (yeah, I know it was in a song), and the damage your thoughtlessness can do is far-reaching.

What about physical touch?”

Not that many years ago, I topped a hill at freeway speeds to meet head-on with a drunk guy in a Cadillac that his wife had just bought him because he promised to stop drinking after he drove his truck into a tree. True story…you can read about it here…

Beeping monitors, wires, and tubes mixed with needles, and the sterile odor of a hospital is only part of the process. The thought of never being held or holding someone again sets the stage for an emotional roller coaster.

To live through an experience like that makes one appreciate life and its simple pleasures.

Why physical touch, why hugs?

The truth is you have no idea what someone else is going through. People don’t fake depression, they fake happiness. When you ask someone how they are doing and they say “fine,” do you buy it? We are all going through stuff. We also know that when someone asks us how we are doing they rarely want to know the truth.

“Fine great. Did you see the Cowboys?”

“What if we asked, “No, really…how are you doing, and then listened?”

A simple hug can do that. I care about you and I don’t know what you are going through but this hug is my way of showing…not telling you…that I care about you. If you need an ear or a shoulder, I am here.” Would the world be so much better if we showed more people that we care about them?

Are we that kind of friend? So, why hug?

Hugs play a significant role in our emotional and physical well-being. Here are some key reasons why hugs are important:

1. Emotional Connection

Hugging fosters a sense of connection and belonging. It communicates feelings of safety, love, and support, which can be especially comforting during difficult times. This emotional bond is crucial for mental health, as it helps reduce feelings of loneliness and isolation.

2. Physical Health Benefits

Research indicates that hugging can have tangible health benefits. For instance, it promotes the production of oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone,” which acts as a stress buffer and can enhance overall well-being. Additionally, frequent hugging has been linked to reduced severity of infections, highlighting its role in bolstering the immune system.

3. Stress Reduction

Hugs can significantly lower stress levels. The act of hugging can help ease feelings of anxiety and depression by boosting the release of feel-good hormones, which can improve mood and emotional resilience.

4. Pain Relief

Interestingly, hugging may also help reduce physical pain. Touch, including hugging, is a powerful form of communication that can convey comfort and support, potentially leading to a decrease in pain perception. Were you aware that your state of mind has an effect on your general health?

True story time:

We had a blood drive at work. One of my employees got a call from them telling her to check with her doctor, something wasn’t right with her blood. This girl had never missed work and was always up. She was delightful in every way. Two weeks after she got the news that she had cancer, she died. Her brain shut her down.

What if she had positive support from just a few hugs? There are cancer centers that focus on treating the whole body, not just the disease. I believe in something I call PMA or a positive mental attitude. There is scientific evidence that your mind is powerful. How could we develop more PMA in people we know? It’s like the butterfly effect, ripples in a pond. The media for whatever reason wants us at each other throats, scared of everything. Would hugs be the middle finger to the talking heads stoking fear and hatred? I think it would be worth a try. Whatever happened to Flower Power?

Did you know there are different types of hugs?

Hugs come in various forms, each conveying different emotions and meanings. Here are some common types of hugs and what they typically signify:

Bear Hug A bear hug is a strong, enveloping embrace that conveys warmth and affection. It often signifies a deep emotional connection and is typically shared between close friends or loved ones.
Side Hug In a side hug, two people stand next to each other and wrap one arm around the other. This type of hug is often seen as more casual and can indicate friendship or comfort without being overly intimate.
Romantic Hug This hug is characterized by a close embrace, often with bodies pressed together. It signifies romantic feelings and intimacy, typically shared between partners.
Back Hug A back hug occurs when one person hugs another from behind. This type of hug can express protection, affection, and surprise, often making the person being hugged feel cherished and secure.
Polite Hug A polite hug is usually brief and may occur in social situations where a more formal greeting is appropriate. It often lacks the emotional depth of other hugs and is more about social etiquette.
Comforting Hug This hug is given to provide support and reassurance during tough times. It is often longer and more enveloping, conveying empathy and understanding.
Group Hug A group hug involves multiple people coming together for a collective embrace. It signifies unity, friendship, and shared joy, often seen in celebrations or moments of camaraderie.
Lift Hug In a lift hug, one person lifts the other off the ground while hugging. This playful gesture often signifies excitement and joy, commonly seen in romantic relationships or among close friends.

I am all for meaningful hugs. The gift of a hug, a genuine hug, is worth more than just about anything you can think of. When we draw our last breath, everything that we own stays behind—all the money, cars, collections, clothes, friends, all of it.

What do you take with you?

I pray we take the memories of the kindnesses we were shown.

The Mormons believe they group around their family members. That is one reason they are so adept at genealogy. I guess they want to know who is waiting for them.

The love language of kindness, touch, empathy, and caring for another person is a selfless act and a treasure that one takes with them, I hope.

Always resolve conflicts before going to sleep and make a point to express appreciation to your loved ones. Nothing compares to the impact of a warm embrace over verbal communication.

What if we incorporate the phrase in our daily walk, “I may not agree with you, but I love you anyway?”

Words to think about.

-Best

3 D Printing, Why?

Like many of you, I suspect you might find you have more time on your hands these days. Yes, there is still work but, virtual work?

Human interaction distinguishes us from furry friends who now have more freedom than we do.

This summer, as I watched a squirrel eat the last of my peaches, it was not lost on me that I was on the inside looking out.

Sanity is not overrated.

I began the ‘two weeks to flatten the curve’ much like Tom T Hall did in his song ‘A Week in A County Jail.’

I scoffed at the toilette paper shortage reports and laughed at the nutcases who scrambled to buy masks; after we were told we didn’t need them.

After a month went by, and we were commanded to wear masks, I wasn’t so antagonistic toward the people in the store yelling at others who did not have a mask of some kind on.

Much like the Bologna and scrambled eggs fed to our singer, songwriter friend, single ply TP wasn’t that bad when you could find it.

It became apparent that the TV had to go.

Systematically, the different news feeds on my phone were also turned off or deleted one at a time.

Nature abhors a vacuum.

If I were not going to get my social addictions met via my usual methods and I had turned off the TV, what was my strategy for keeping sane to be?

While I am book smart, I am also one of those who can do whatever I put my mind to—not bragging, just a fact.

After catching up on a myriad of things I wanted to get done and with no reprieve from the pandemic insight, the next logical thing was to give Jeff Bezos more money.

Purchasing a 3D printer, much like waiting on the secret decoder ring from Ovaltine, the day arrived when Alexa announced there was movement at my front door.

By this stage of the game, I eagerly answered the door, speaking with salespeople, making friends with every kind of delivery person, and even social distancing with the landscapers who were not wild about talking with a customer. Whatever happened with the Jehovah’s Witness? I have time…

Opening the box was eerily reminiscent of my erector set from about the same time as the decoder ring.

Assembling this thing was not for the faint of heart.

Up to the challenge, I spent the next two hours watching videos, with each one telling the viewer something a little different. Armed with the basics and lots of ‘tinkering experience,’ the games began.

At this point in the story, I was reminded of the Internet back before graphical user interfaces. The only people who took advantage of the Internet were geeks. It was command-line driven, and like PCs as a whole, it was the interface that made it possible for Greg Shorthand to be placed alongside typewriters and stone tablets in the dustbin of history.

3D printers have been out for a while, and I waited for multiple reasons. Time to tinker with it, was one of the main reasons.

Like installing rev 0 or 1.0 of any software is an invitation for arrows, or at least scars on your back, the bleeding edge of any technology is usually fraught with disillusionment.

While there is no doubt in my mind that someone will create a 3D printer that anyone can pluck out of the box, turn it on, and print stuff, today is not that day.

I entertained this idea in the first place, as I restore old radios. Knobs, other hardware, and maybe even cases could be printed. Would they have the same value? No, but it would still be entertaining.

As of today about the only thing I have found this useful for is eating up lots of time, and making tchotchkes, or as I call them, dustables.

While this is a popular model printer, it is from 2018, which is ancient in dog years. We heard how they were looking for people with these things to make parts for face shields.

I find it humorous that one of the places you can use to create things is a place called ‘Tinkercad.’

After attempting some of the ‘highbrow’ cad software, Tinkercad is easy to use. If you get one of these printers, you had best like to tinker.

The two weeks to flatten the curve are now ten months. The curve appears alive and well.

With winter on our back doors and, of course, the holidays, I would encourage everyone to do something positive and not dwell on what you cannot control. Every subject that I loathed in school I went back and visited. Why? Why not. When I think of the information at our fingertips, and it is taken for granted, it boggles my mind.

Social media is rife with animus from people who I would never expect. Then you have the fact-checkers who blatantly post their obnoxious views on anything they don’t happen to like.

Yes, Facebook does not get much of my attention these days. I don’t need people telling me what to think; you don’t either.

I might look at resin printers next after I push the envelope with the filament variety.

I sincerely hope you have a Merry Christmas. If you are a 3D enthusiast, drop me a note. One can connect with communities, but why not connect with people who at least read what I write?

Yes, the Jailers wife got much prettier each day, and so it goes. -Best

Anonymity

Peoples behavior amazes me!

If you are inside a bank or the DMV, nobody would just walk up in front of you and cut in line, would they? Generally speaking, no!

Driving down the road however, that is a different story. The signs will clearly point out that one lane is going away in X miles and folks will run that lane down to the last few inches and then cut in front of someone, and expect it to be ,OK… When it happens to you, you are pissed. When you do it to someone else, that is ok.

Because we are in our cars with the windows rolled up, we are invincible and are “anonymous.”

A mile down the road it will all be forgotten until the next time that you have it done to you or you do it to someone else.

The truth of this however is that the person who you cut off maybe one of those with a bad temper who needs to take some anger management classes. They may stay mad about it for hours, or even the entire day or longer! I have known folks who when you speak to them about this their demeanor changes and the anger that they felt comes right back out and they are pissed all over again.

Yes, it is their problem and they need to deal with it but; do you want to be responsible for this? Do you want to be the one to push them over the edge? Maybe you don’t care but trust me when I say this, some of those that do heinous things out of anger no doubt had some of the “straws in their back pack” put in there by folks who were jerks on the road.

Social media is another place where we can be anonymous. We can “post” calling others names that we don’t agree with or, simply show our ass and laugh it off.

Lead by Example

You don’t like to be called names or cut in front of so, first and foremost, don’t do it. No matter how much you want to, resist the urge to be a jerk. Pretend that all of those folks stuck in that traffic line are friends and neighbors and folks that you will see again.

There is a group that I am following that is for people afflicted with a type of medical condition. There are folks who talk shit to people because they are using some pseudo name and no one really knows who they are so they can be a complete ASS. They are cowards. Hiding behind a pseudo name attacking those which you don’t agree with is cowardice. Not only is it cheap and complete chicken shit behavior, they are trying to make themselves feel better (smarter, more powerful) at the expense of others.

People on this particular group have health issues and are looking for people who are in the same boat for comfort and they find cowards who hide behind “handles” attacking them or others.

Texans are pretty good folks. We are generally polite and would not cut someone off just to do it. Most of the folks that I see cutting folks off, have license plates from other states, mostly from the north, why is that?

While Texans are known for our hospitality and polite demeanor, you should also know that we are also known for packing guns.

An armed society is a polite society.

Shortly after concealed carry became law here in Texas the first person to get shot was involved in a case of road rage. This person got out if his car and started trying to break the window on another car who he managed to cut off.

The guy pulled out his gun and when the other man did finally break the window, grabbed him by the collar and started punching him in the face; the guy pulled the trigger.

While this is an extreme case, it is fact that when temperatures get higher there are more incidents of road rage. Not only does the temperature play into this but keep in mind because of the huge influx of people Texas is enjoying economic growth and with it a growth in people. With that growth we have a growth in infrastructure to support them and that means road construction. Lots and lots of road construction.

Treat others as you would want to be treated, and don’t respond to cowards! Ignored behavior goes away.

I cannot stress enough to “lead by example.”

There are those of you who will say, what about if we get into that lane going away situation, by accident?

That happens and it has happened to me. The correct way to deal with that is to immediately try to get over, instead of running it down to the end. Most drivers will see and understand that for what it is, and not that you felt like you are better than them and don’t have to wait like everyone else.

-Best

Thought for the Day

How much do we notice as we go through a day?????
Lisa Beamer on Good Morning America – If you remember, she’s the wife of Todd Beamer who said ‘Let’s Roll!’ and helped take down the plane over Pennsylvania that was heading for Washington, DC back on 9/11.

She said it’s the little things that she misses most about Todd, such as hearing the garage door open as he came home, and her children running to meet him.

Lisa recalled this story: “I had a very special teacher in high school many years ago whose husband died suddenly of a heart attack. About a week after his death, she shared some of her insight with a classroom of students. As the late afternoon sunlight came streaming in through the classroom windows and the class was nearly over, she moved a few things on the edge of her desk and sat down there.

With a gentle look of reflection on her face, she paused and said, ‘Class is over, I would like to share with all of you, a thought that is unrelated to class, but which I feel is very important. Each of us is put here on earth to learn, share, love, appreciate and give of ourselves. None of us knows when this fantastic experience will end.

It can be taken away at any moment.

Perhaps this is God’s way of telling us that we must make the most out of every single day. Her eyes, beginning to water, she went on, ‘So I would like you all to make me a promise. From now on, on your way to school, or on your way home, find something beautiful to notice.

It doesn’t have to be something you see, it could be a scent, perhaps of freshly baked bread wafting out of someone’s house, or it could be the sound of the breeze slightly rustling the leaves in the trees, or the way the morning light catches one autumn leaf as it falls gently to the ground. Please look for these things, and cherish them. For, although it may sound trite to some, these things are the “stuff” of life. The little things we are put here on earth to enjoy. The things we often take for granted.

The class was completely quiet. We all picked up our books and filed out of the room silently. That afternoon, I noticed more things on my way home from school than I had that whole semester. Every once in a while, I think of that teacher and remember what an impression she made on all of us, and I try to appreciate all of those things that sometimes we all overlook.

Take notice of something special you see on your lunch hour today. Go barefoot. Or walk on the beach at sunset.

Beautiful beach and waves of Caribbean Sea

Stop off on the way home tonight to get a double dip ice cream cone. For as we get older, it is not the things we did that we often regret, but the things we didn’t do.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”

GOD Bless you every day of your life.

The nicest place to be is in someone’s thoughts,

The safest place to be is in someone’s prayers,

and the very best place to be is.. .

In the hands of God.
HAVE A GREAT DAY!

#toxic #people

Toxic people

If I don’t agree with you, lock-step, I am wrong and therefore must be dismissed. That however is not good enough, not only must I be dismissed, I must be told how stupid that I am for not seeing things exactly as you do! And when I am being informed of how brainless that I am, the informer is compelled to use the most derisive terminology that they can come up with. Not only am I attacked, but my lineage is attacked! Further, the attacks are from the faceless, nameless, who build themselves up, by tearing others down. Please note that if that is your tactic, I will not engage you.

Firstly, if we all agreed on everything, than we would all most certainly be taking the blue pill. (Brave New World.)

Opinions are formed by many factors including, who your parents were, what geographic area of the world that you were born and grew up in. Where you went to school, what you studied. Who your professors were and where they grew up, and where they studied. Your views are predicated on so many different factors that we can not all possibly agree on everything as, we are a diverse people.

Diversity builds strength and character.

In my daily walk, I choose to have friends that are as diverse in nature as night vs. day. Why? If I have friends that are all “like minded,” how can I possibly grow as a human being? “This is my box, as long as I stay inside the box the world will be ok, please don’t try to confuse me with the facts!”

Folks; that thinking is profoundly flawed!

There is a modicum of truth out there from just about anyone with a brain. I heard a man on a talk show trying to convince the moderator that since all people come from Africa that the black man is the father of the entire human genome and therefore all species of man everywhere should treat the black man with the respect of a parent, and pay homage to them. He as a matter of fact went on to say that they were entitled to receive stuff from the white person, for this reason.

The moderator somehow managed not to laugh at this guy, and while I was thinking how misinformed that this person is; I was interested in his take on the world. He, like many does not look outside the box. Somewhere in his history someone passed that story to him, and he did not question it.

Early man traces back some 6 million years.. There were several different “evolutionary developments of man” in that time period and while man may have fist walked up right in what is now Africa, you must remember that Africa did not look like it does now back 6 million odd years ago, and with tectonic plate movement, was probably not located anywhere then, where it is today.

The truth will set you free!

We as a people must learn to embrace the truth. Before we embrace it, we must learn what the truth is. Many don’t want to do this because the truth is uncomfortable.

Are you the type of person who goes to the doctor if you have a strange pain? Not the kind of pain that keeps you up at night, on a scale of 1-10 say it is a 2. Do you go get it checked out? Are you the kind of person who goes and get regular check ups and do you go for cancer screenings both of the external kind as well as the invasive type that all of us dread.

Why or why not?

If you do, you are one of the few who is willing to learn the truth and then deal with it. If the truth reveals some form of cancer; catching it early increases your odds of beating it, our outrunning it. If not, the truth scares you and you would rather live in your box. I know people who will not even go to the doctor for a simple check up as they “feel fine!”

We had a blood drive at the office one day. One of my friends was called by the folks after the fact, and told to check with her doctor as there was something not right with her blood. You need to understand that this person never missed work, was never late and exhibited no symptoms of any illness prior to finding out that there was a problem.

She found out that she had leukemia and the remarkable thing was, she died two weeks later! The brain is so powerful, that when she was told that she had cancer, her brain killed her! That is why it is imperative that when you are sick that you keep a good mental attitude; and if you are really sick, you find a place that treats the entire body, not just the illness.

There are many reasons that people have issues with evolution.

The basic issue is really a matter of human limitation; we cannot conceive of 4.5 billion years, we simply can’t do it! If our limited mind could; we would be railing against the $18 trillion of debt that this country currently has dug itself into but, we cannot put that into any context that makes sense.

Why do you think so many people play the lottery? Large numbers are not something that our limited minds can fathom. The odds of winning are 1 in 250M rounded down.

But still many people buy tickets so they are either, really bad at math or, they cannot conceive of how many 250 million other folks playing affects the chances of them winning.

We cannot comprehend 4.5 billion years of age on the earth and we cannot comprehend that man has been here for over 6 million years so, we invent something more tenable. We invent the creation story.

Now before you write me and call me names; I have a third possibility for you, one that I happen to think makes more sense.

Having studied biology and realizing that each cell is actually a machine, I too find it difficult to believe that random happenstance, even over billions of years is responsible for us.

So how about this for a possibility; what if, some omnipotent being used the evolutionary process to design what we have today? What if the stories that we read in Sunday school, are his way of allowing us to deal with our creation; as we could not possibly understand genetic manipulation 2000 years ago. What if God’s language is that of science?

Dealing with the facts on a scientific basis makes life much simpler. Dealing with others on common grounds “which we all have” makes life with others possible.

I do not require you to agree with me to be friends with you and I don’t require that you submit to my way of thinking in order to carry on a conversation. I do require that you be open to the possibility that your way of thinking may not be iron clad. Staying open to other possibilities is what I am about.

There is strength in diversity of thought. There is always room for growth as a person and acceptance if not simply the respect of others views.

As one who studies philosophy, I enjoy the Sufis among others. There actually is common ground, if you care to look.

Embracing life is a philosophy that I hold close, and I think most would benefit from. Man must build up each other, instead of tearing them down.

I do not allow toxic people into my circle. Observing boundaries and not crossing them keeps me sane. Sharing with you some of my walk is my effort to help my fellow man.

Above all else, seek the truth. Be willing to look outside your box for the answers. I truly feel that we are all connected in some grand way and while some might call this “new age” or put some other bullshit label on it, a large number of you will know this to be true.

Boundaries

As I spoke earlier about setting boundaries, I want you to imagine for a moment, the solar system. The sun in the middle and each and every planet orbiting the sun as it has done for billions of years.

Now for argument sake, pretend that you are the sun. Your friends or family are the planets. Your BFF might be Mercury who you tell everything. Like the best the sun has to offer, mercury also gets the worst as it is really too close but, what are BFF’s for?

Now you have other friends who are out there with Venus or the Earth or Mars etc.

Toxic folks are like Pluto “who I still think is a planet,” but just kept at a distance as they are simply toxic. They still get some energy from you, but not very much. Have you ever noticed how some people will simply rob you of your energy? Push them away from your circle.

Learning to set boundaries will keep you sane. Learning to keep toxic people, thoughts and practices away from you is truly an art, but one worth attempting. You let Pluto come do a close fly by, every now and then to see if they have grown any. If they have, maybe you let them into Jupiter’s orbit or maybe even Mars!

The lesson here is you are in control of your destiny. Don’t allow others to poison your well.

-Best to you and those that you care about!